Swinger party Etiquette
Before attending a swinger party a couple must learn some etiquette and basic rules first.This is a small guide for new swinger couples.
New swinger couple arriving!
Since you're the newbies you need to keep this in mind: swinging is for open-minded couples, it wont be viewed favorably if one partner leaves early and the other stays, the majority of time, if one goes, both go remember you and your mate are trying to become a swinger couple.
The swinger party won't last forever
Arrive early or alt least on time. Its not fashionable to turn up late to parties, as the night may have already got underway, and may it be people who have already began feel awkward walking in late, it may also be harder for others to fit in. If you're arriving late give the party host a ring and check with them, they may update him/her on how the night is going so he/she may walk straight into it. Be polite The swinging lifestyle is full of insecurities and uncertainties. You should behave as a real swinger couple. As the saying goes , treat people in the way you want to be treated, sensitively, thoughtfully, understandingly.
In swinger parties if you're not friendly you're out
Be friendly with every one, even when not wanting to take it further with them, there should be other things in common, or they may start introducing people. Many swingers don't swap or have intercourse with other couples but after going to two or more parties
As any person, swingers like gifts
Phone the party host and ask them if there’s any thing they're needing , always arrive with something for the hosts. Pack what ever may be needed, toothbrush, comb, perfume/aftershave, Condoms, robe etc. Neat casual clothing and good grooming Always take a robe or negligee, it may be more comfortable as the evening progresses.
Health and hygiene
In a swinger party you should interact in many different ways with other swinger couples. The main thing that may turn the potential partners off may be bad breath or body odor. Have a shower before leaving for the party. Only do what is really fun. The whole idea is to enjoy one self, that’s why the lifestyle and its parties exist.
How and why to say no
The most basic and important in swinger party etiquette is the right to say no. A simple and polite No, thanks, is all that is required. There's no need to explain, as this may cause problems and hurt. Do not be afraid to say no, every one has the right, and if someone does end up doing things he/she doesn't want to it may cause more ill-felling and embarrassment.
Do not be pushy
If one fancies swinging with someone let them know in a nice, inviting way, if they say no, it is up to them. Do not ask them why, as this could be embarrassing and hurtful. If they decide not to swing with you, do not carry on and try to sweet talk them and flirt with them, as this may do a lot more harm than good.
Most people like a few drinks at a party, drinking socially is fine, it may provide a good social platform to get to know other swingers, it may also help anyone relax. Overindulging is not a good thing though, as it may hinder for physical and mental performance, and is a turn off for many people. If anyone need to drink heavily to participate in the party this isn't the lifestyle for his/her.
Practice safe sex
It is up to every swinger to protect his/her self and his/her partner. The use of condoms should not offend any one, it is not saying one is dirty, it is simple a means to protect all swingers involved. Anyone not willing to use a condom is selfish and irresponsible. How ever, saying that, if all participating people are happy not to, it may be down to discretion.
Do not take someone to a swinger party who is not fully informed.
This is an obvious one, don't take any one to a swinger party who doesn't’t know what there going to, it is very embarrassment for every one, and probably may cause problems. Do not take a ticket to a swinger’s party A ticket is someone who goes with another person to the party just to get a third one in, but has no intention swinging, of course no one HAS to swing, but if one person swings, it is normally expected that the other one is willing to swing. The group room is for group swinging As the name suggests, the group room is for group swinging, if any wants privacy do not go to the group room, if one take a partner with him/her into the swinging room they may expect others to ask to join them , obviously still there's the right to refuse.
Do not disturb the swinging enjoyment of others
If in a bedroom or the group room, do not disturb the swinging of others with prolonged talk. This may be very mood-destroying and very annoying! If a party is BYO, only drink what you bring BYO, also known as BYOB (bring your own booze), only drink what you bring, unless under permission from others.
Probably the most important one, approach every thing with an open mind and positive attitude, act out your fantasies, and enjoy your self.
Call to say thanks
Always call or write to say thanks, for one thing it may get anyone invited again, and it may let the hosts know that they provided a good party.If you follow this suggestion you'll always be well received in a swinger party.