From soft to full swinging
If you’ve already been to the first base of swinging, then let’s go ahead and hit that home run. After weeks, maybe even months of slow, soft swinging, you’ve gotten comfortable and you’re ready to go.
Have you and your partner talking about what’s okay to do and what isn’t?
A Few Basic Rules
Each swinger couple will be different in determining the rules of play when soft swinging or hard swinging, but here are some things to keep in mind or try for your selves.
Talk about your fantasies. Is your husband into watching two women, or are you ready to see your husband pleasure someone else? What do you really want to play out? Be honest when you talk with your partner.
This isn’t a bartering session; this is a time for you to lay everything out on the table to make sure that you aren’t hurting the relationship that you already have.
One of the worst things that you can do is not talk about the details ahead of time, and either feel pressured into doing something that you aren’t ready for, or watching your partner do something that you aren’t ready to see.
And talk with the other couple too. If you’re uncomfortable about fellatio or some other act, then say it.
You may even want to write out a sort of contract, and sign it.
Since you may not be in each other’s sight, knowing exactly what your partner will and will not be doing can set a beginner’s mind at ease.
Starting The Fun…
When you’re in the room with your new playmate, you want to try to make the scene comfortable. If you’ve talked ahead of time, this won’t be difficult.
You can start by talking or just moving closer to each other.
It’s amazing what a sexy environment can do as well. Maybe candles and incense can make for a sultry atmosphere, or maybe you just want to get down to business.
Start with exploring their body. Touch and feel each inch. Make compliments as you go, but don’t talk about comparisons. This moment is about the other person and making them feel special.
There will come a point when your bodies will figure out how to move with each other. Keep the other’s fantasies in mind.
Did they want you to try something in particular, or did they want you to surprise them?
If at any point you are uncomfortable or need to stop the festivities, then do so. Immediately.
This is not a game in the sense that someone wins and someone loses. You are working together to overcome sexual boundaries and fulfil fantasies. You both still have someone to go home with.
And if you want to continue the swinging relationship, you have to be able to trust each other completely.
At this point, if it’s been agreed upon, go ahead and have sex with the other person—careful to stay protected and safe. Savor the feeling of release of orgasm as you lie in someone else’s arms.
Savor the satisfaction.